Sunday, May 15, 2011


My dear friend, Samuel, had offered me my own domain for my own blog for as long as I can remember.

Finally, a few months ago, I gave in.

I said, I am now ready for my own domain, as long as he teach me EVERYTHING there is to take a good care of it.

It was a deal and he even PAID for it.
(considering he might not be able to give me any present this year, I am HAPPY).

So, I now have a new 'home' to my writing, which you can all check it out HERE!!!
(isn't the domain EXTREMELY COOL???)

My blog readers cans till access my archives here, but why stick to the old stuff when the NEW stuff is (hopefully) more appealing?
*wink wink*

I guess I'll see you all in!!!

Sunday, January 09, 2011

I Crave You

I never know that you can say "you crave a boy" before hearing this song.

but, well, it's a song, there's no right or wrong grammar in a song.

anyway, Besides all the Katy Perry songs, this song has been playing and replaying in my head.


Flight Facilities feat Giselle - I Crave You

Why can't you want me like the other boys do?

They stare at me while I stare at you

Why can't I keep you safe as my own?

One moment I have you the next you are gone

Rehearsed steps on an empty stage

That boy's got my heart in a silver cage

Why can't you want me like the other boys do?

They stare at me while I crave you

I walked into the room dripping in gold

Yeah dripping in gold

I walked into the room dripping in gold

Dripping in gold

A wave of heads did turn, or so I've been told

Or so I've been told

My heart broke when I saw you kept your gaze controlled

Oh I cannot solve

Why can't you want me like the other boys do?

They stare at me while I stare at you

Why can't I keep you safe as my own?

One moment I have you the next you are gone

Rehearsed steps on an empty stage

That boy's got my heart in a silver cage

Why can't you want me like the other boys do?

They stare at me while I crave you

It's true I crave you

Crave You

It's true I crave you

Let's just stop and think, before I lose face

Surely I can't fall, into a game of chase

Around his little finger, that boy has got me curled

I try to reach out, but he's in his own world

This boy's got my head tied in knots with all his games

I simply want him more because he looks the other way

Thursday, January 06, 2011

God and I

I blamed God. I hated him for ruining my life.

But then I realized something:

You can't be angry with God and not believe in him at the same time.

Sister Augustine - House (Damned If You Do S01E05)

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

The Friendship Algorithm

I know I'm almost 4 years behind, if I want to post this thing on my blog.
But I don't give a damn.
I still think that this is THE MOST BRILLIANT thing in the world regarding friendship!

So, thanks to Samuel who never gets bored on telling me how great the show is.
(After countless time watching the series on the plane or anywhere else, randomly, I finally surrender and download the series from the internet)
Thanks to Alia, who gets addicted to the show and never seems to get bored on watching the show over and over again, which makes me realize that I should probably mention the show on my blog, one time or another.
Thanks to the long waiting hour in the airport lounge, the very comfortable twin bed hotel, and the crappy movies on the plane, which gave me and Alia the chance on watching the show for countless number of time.

Here it is: THE MOST BRILLIANT Friendship Algorithm!

p.s. I'm so rooting for Jim Parsons to win Golden Globe on this year's award! Go Sheldon!!!

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Small Trip: LÜneburg

The next stop in my Small Trip was Lisa's hometown: a town called Lüneburg.

Well, as I wrote before, the focus of this small trip, besides experiencing new things, was to see how Lisa lives her daily life.
Her hometown Lüneburg was a part of her daily life for about 20 years.
Lisa was born in Lüneburg and her parents lived in the same house for around 22 years now.
This town is a really big part of Lisa's and her family's lives.

I was very excited to come to Lüneburg, actually.
One of the reasons was because my dad was there before.
There was one time when my dad had a business to do in Germany and he took a day off to visit Lisa and her family.
So, whilst I am the one with the biggest connection with Lisa (I lived with her, in the same room, for a year!), my dad was the one who visited her and her family first.

Lisa and I arrived in Lüneburg very late. I think it was almost midnight, or even past midnight.
It was a cold, cold night.
Lisa's father, Peter, came to pick us up in the train station, in which later I too met up with Lisa's mother, Christine.

When I got to Lisa's house, I was, honestly surprised.
The house, like other normal houses in Europe-I should say, was fairly small.
And Lisa's parents had a bad news for me: it had been a very cold week and their heater was broken.
I was worried.

But it surprised me, Lisa's family welcomed me very warmly.
They turned on their electric heater under the dining table, just for my visit.
They offered me tons of food.
Christine cooked all sorts of delicious food that I won't be able to enjoy anywhere else in the world.
Peter was very psych that I was there he showed me EVERYTHING! From his book collections to his family pictures. From his birthday presents to the applications on his iPhone.
In much simple words, Lisa has GREAT parents!

Anyhow, back to the tales about a more-than-1000-year-old town called Lüneburg.
I was extremely curious to see what the town looks like.
For one thing, I remember the time when Lisa and I was still in Canada. That time, we met a lady who visited Lüneburg once and she loved it so very much. Plus, I was with Elisa and her parents a few days before I got to Lüneburg. They all have visited Lüneburg and they all gave the same expression: a long sigh, a smile, a hand in the chest, and praises
They went, "Awww... it's so beautiful..." or "Lüneburg, isn't it beautiful?" or "Lüneburg, you're gonna like it!"
I mean, how could I not be curious to see the whole town after getting those responses?
For another thing, I was really there to proof my dad's point: "The town is very small. It's almost like a village."

Thus, to proof other people's points regarding the town, I was ready to explore the city.

The first 'big' stop in the city, on my first day of exploring Lüneburg was 'the runway'.
In the picture below is an area around Lüneburg's city center that Lisa called 'the runway'.

I remember when Lisa and I were in Canada, Lisa was telling me that her town maybe the town with the most cafes in Germany.
As I lived in Bandung before my Canadian experience, I felt that we had that much thing in common. Bandung has tons of cafes, even though I'm not sure if it can accept the title of being the city with the most cafes in Indonesia.

In the picture above tables and chairs can be distinctively seen.
The area called 'the runway' was one area with cafes galore.
Along the city center, much more cafes can be visited.
People, like Christine and her friends, found cafes behind a store or all sorts of hiding places.

As for 'the runway', Lisa specifically named it for people like her mother.
Lisa said, if Christine walks through the area, she would be waving hands and saying hi to everyone at every table. Just like a model in the runway, only a lot more friendlier.
That made her think the place deserves to be called 'the runway'.

So, I was in Lüneburg for few days.
The time which I should have been able to proof the two points that I was after: whether or not it's beautiful and whether or not it's very small.

The picture below would be the proof of the first point: Luneburg is indeed beutiful!

The minute I walked on the bridge in the city, looked over to the view like the picture I took above, I immediately said this to Lisa,
"Wow! it's really beautiful! It looks just like postcards. Postcards from Europe!"
I mean, really. Go look through postcards from Europe, I bet many of the postcards would have pictures with a view like this. Old buildings, cafes, river: the combination of ancient and modern time.

Then it hit me.
Lüneburgg is a town to remember.
The buildings within the city were mesmerizing.
They were very old, but yet beautiful.
They looked very medieval-ly and it made Lisa talked a lot about how she imagined the time when people were really living in there, primitively.

I put some pictures of the houses here. scroll down, if you may.
These are some of the oldest building in the town.

The picture above is a house with a very medieval look in it, notice the paint and the pattern.
the interesting part is the pulley at the top of the building.
It was used to lift heavy things to get into the house, specifically into the storage room within the house which is marked by the green door.
Isn't it interesting?

The picture above was interesting too.
When I first got there, I was surprised that normal people still use these old houses to live.
I, of course, managed to peek into people's windows to see how they live inside these pretty medieval-ly buildings. But I think it was too rude to took pictures of the inside of strangers' houses.
So, to show you that people, normal people-nevertheless, still do live in those postcard-y look houses, look at the picture above. A normal person is at the door, greeting her normal guest.

Other interesting thing about Lüneburg is that they actually hold a medieval festival annually.
Unfortunately, the festival is usually in October, very near to Halloween, when-unfortunately-I was there on the last week of September.
However, Lisa said that in the festival, people do dress up like they used to dress in medieval time and the town was decorated to build a medieval-ly feeling.
So, if you are a medieval freak, I would recommend you to come visit the town and check on the town festival.

Eventually, we came to the second point that I was trying to proof: is Lüneburg VERY small?
The answer, as it turned out, no.

Look at the picture of Lisa and I standing on top of Lüneburg's water tower below.
You can basically see one part of the town.
It doesn't look that small, isn't it?

Well, it's a small town, true, because (almost) everything is on walking or biking distance.
I was lucky that Lisa and her parents lent me one of their bikes, so I got to bike all around town.
but it is not a VERY small town.

It is definitely bigger than Pomalaa (I should maybe improve the wikipedia page) in South East Sulawesi, where I used to live as a child.
It is definitely bigger than Stettler, Alberta, in Canada, Helen's (my Canadian hostmom) hometown.
It has a forest (although, if you have seen Indonesian tropical forest, you wouldn't call that a forest *wink*) and a river that runs through the city. It also has a street with plenty of fashion stores like H&M.
So, I wouldn't call it a VERY small town.
Judging from my origin, which is Jakarta, Indonesia, I would call it a small town.
therefore, my dad's point was not proven to be true. *smile*

The last thing I wanna say about Lüneburg is about the 'purple flower'.

Again, to tell you about the 'purple flower', I had to tell you a story when Lisa and I was still in Canada.
We were in our room, browsing through our pictures, which we brought from home to remind us about home at all times.
Lisa was showing me a picture of a field, filled with the 'purple flower' and she told me about the famous 'purple flower' that draws tons of tourist to come to her town.
Later in that year, we met the lady (look up!) and she said that the 'purple flower' was very beautiful.

When Lisa and I was on Skype, planning our trip, Lisa was confused at first, with what I meant by 'purple flower'.
She asked me if it was lavender and it even took her sometime to realized that I was talking about Heide. The Lüneburger Heide.

On the second last day of my stay in Lüneburg, Lisa, Christine, and Peter (her boyfriend, not her father) took me to the Heide.
Unfortunately, it was autumn when I was there and Heide usually blooms in summer.
So, this below would be the best picture of Heide field that I took.
You can't really see the flowers, but the purple dots were there.

I took a picture of Heide in the market, just to show the 'purple flower' that I meant, more clearly.

The funny thing about going to the Heide field that I didn't have the chance to get a good look on the actual Heide.
But on the other hand, I got a good look of this mushroom below.

That very cool and colorful mushroom was all over the Heide field.
It was very interesting because I had never seen such poisonous mushroom grows wildly and beautifully. Lisa and I ended up taking tons of pictures of the mushrooms.

The time that I had in Lüneburg was awesome.
Even awesome might be an understatement.

I mean, the weather was beautiful when I was there: the sun was shining generously.
Until it got to the second last day in Lüneburg, the day when we went to see the Heide: rain was pouring.
Lisa's family was extremely nice.
I'm telling you: my friends and I have agreed that meeting a local family when you're traveling is the best way to cope with home sick.
And Lisa's family was very wonderful to be around with.
I also met Max, Lisa's brother who's now studying in Gronigen, The Netherlands, and Morla, Lisa's best friend who's now spending a year in Zaragoza, Spain for Erasmus.
And the city was stunning.
I now understand why Lisa was homesick when we were in the boring Regina.*d'oh!*

In simple words: I wouldn't mind coming back to Lüneburg anytime!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Teman Baik (Bagian 10)

Setelah bermacam-macam tulisan tentang Teman Baik, akhirnya aku memutuskan untuk membuat tulisan ini.

Di edisi ke-10 ini aku akan bercerita tentang salah satu Teman Baik yang sudah aku temani sejak tahun 2007.

Ingatan aku tentang pertemuan pertama kami agak kabur, sebenarnya. Mungkin kami berdua pernah bertemu sebelum tahun 2007, tapi aku benar-benar tidak ingat.

Yang pasti, saat kami benar-benar berkenalan dan berhubungan di tahun 2007, aku merasa wajahnya sudah tidak asing lagi.

Pertemanan kami berawal dari sebuah lomba debat Bahasa Ingris bernama AUDC. Waktu itu aku menjadi Liaison Officer untuk tim dari Filipina dan temanku ini menjadi ketua tim Liaison Officer. Secara teknis, pada saat lomba debat tersebut, temanku ini adalah atasan aku.

Susah sekali untuk mengakui hal ini tapi temanku ini adalah atasan yang baik. Beneran asik 'kerja' sama temenku ini, alasannya sih karena aku (dan teman-teman lainnya) bisa ngejek-ngejekin dia, walaupun umur kita terpaut jauh. Dia bukan tipe-tipe senior yang minta digampar lah pokoknya.

Selesai lomba debat Bahasa Inggris itu, kami (aku, temanku, dan beberapa teman lainnya) masih suka bermain bersama. Nonton, makan, karaoke, ketawa-ketawa gak jelas di CC, dan masih banyak lagi.

Sayangnya, lama-kelamaan teman-teman kami yang lain sering sibuk dengan kegiatan-kegiatannya yang lain.

Aku, yang selalu menyempatkan diri untuk bermain-main, menjadi orang pertama yang dia kontak. Hal ini berlangsung cukup sering, sampai akhirnya aku juga melakukan hal yang sama. Ujung-ujunynya, aku dan Teman Baik ini cukup bahagia kalau kami bisa main berdua.

Setiap ada film yang baru dirilis, kami kemudian sengaja janjian untuk nonton film itu bersama.

Sesudah atau sebelum nonton film, ngobrol-ngobrol ngalor-ngidul biasanya terjadi.

Ceritanya macam-macam. Keluarga, kecengan, teman-teman, gosip-gosip kampus, dan masih banyak lagi yang lainnya.

Lama-lama, aku merasa, kami berdua bukan cuma sekedar teman main biasa. Aku sudah memandangnya sebagai salah satu Teman Baik.

Rasanya sudah tidak ada lagi rahasia hidup aku yang tidak dia ketahui.

Mulai dari kecengan, berantem sama teman baik lainnya, orang-orang yang aku sebelin, sampai selera selera musik dan film sampah yang biasa kita nikmati bersama.

Rasanya sudah jadi refleks untuk memberitahukan segala macam hal baru yang terjadi pada Teman Baik ini.

Oh ya, aku baru ingat satu hal, aku dan Teman Baik ini tidak pernah membicarakan masalah akademik.

Kesamaan diantara kami berdua adalah, kami berdua bukan orang yang berhasil dalam bidang akademik. Kami berdua tergolong orang yang pas-pas-an di ITB. Alhamdulillah lolos aja gitu.

Perbedaannya, aku beruntung bisa lulus [sangat] cepat dan dia tidak beruntung [dan malas] untuk lulus cepat-cepat.

Selain akademik yang pas-pasan, masih ada lagi kekurangan Teman Baik aku ini.

Contohnya adalah gaya berpakaian dia yang sangat-sangat membosankan. Beneran deh, Teman Baik ini sungguh tidak bisa berdandan. Ada masa-masa dimana Teman Baik aku ini terus-menerus memakai kemeja flanel biru/putih kotak-kotak. Kemudian, entah apa yang terjadi dengan kemeja flanel itu, Teman Baik ini tidak bosan-bosannya menggunakan jaket jeans warna biru. Aku aja sampai bosan ngasih taunya.

Kekurangan dia yang lain adalah kadang-kadang kelakuannya sangat mengganggu.

Kadang-kadang, dia memutuskan untuk selalu tersenyum untuk mengganggu. cengar-cengir gak jelas gitu. Mau ada gempa bumi, mau aku cerita soal sesuatu yang sedih, dia tetep aja nyengir annoying.

Ada juga masa-masa dimana dia ngambek, menolak untuk ngomong, atau jadi gak asik. Itu juga ganggu banget. Kadang aku cerita soal bahwa aku baru aja ketemu kecengen aku, yang kemudian dia respon dengan wajah kaku.

Sering banget aku harus bilang, "would you please show some excitement?"

Tapi tentu saja dibalik kekurangan-kekurangan si Teman Baik ini, ada banyak hal yang bisa membuat aku menobatkan dia menjadi salah satu Teman Baik.

Salah satu alasan aku suka sekali menceritakan berbagai macam kisah kehidupan aku pada Teman Baik ini karena dia membuat aku tetap waras dengan responnya yang jujur, khas pria yang blak-blakan.

Dengan menggunakan contoh yang sama, yaitu kecengan, aku jadi bisa melihat dunia hubungan cowok dan cewek dari sisi realita aka sisi cowok, bukan hanya dari sisi khayalan aka sisi cewek. Mirip kayak cerita He's Just Not That Into You, Teman Baik aku ini banyak memberikan insights soal sikap aku ke kecengan aku.

Contoh lain misalnya saat ngegosip. Biasanya aku dan Sara akan menggosipkan seseorang yang kami berdua tidak suka. Dengan santainya, Teman Baik aku ini akan melontarkan ucapan-ucapan seperti,

"yah… mungkin dia cari perhatian karena dirumahnya gak dapet perhatian dari orang tuanya kali…"

Tentu saja jawaban dia gak se-Oprah itu ya, tapi kira-kira kayak begitu lah.

Alasan lain yang bikin aku senang sekali berhubungan dengan Teman Baik ini adalah dia gak pernah nuntut apa-apa.

Teman Baik aku ini mau diajak kesana-kesini, mau disuruh nyusulin kesana-kesini, mau diajakin makan ke tempat yang aneh-aneh, dan selalu mau dikenalin sama teman-teman baru.

Baru-baru ini ya, Teman Baik aku ini melakukan hal yang sangat gila.

Berdasarkan keisengan, aku ngajakin dia nonton di Gandaria City jam 7 malam. Tanpa aku sangka, dia yang sekarang lagi ngekost di Cibubur datang dengan suka rela. Selesai nonton sekitar jam 9 malam, dia pulang ke Cibubur dari Gandaria dan memakan waktu hampir dua jam.

Entah karena memang dia kesepian tinggal di sebuah desa di Cibubur sana, entah karena dia emang pengen ikutan nonton, entah dua-duanya. Tapi pengorbanan Teman Baik aku ini gak bakalan pernah aku lupakan seumur hidup!

Banyak orang yang gak ngerti kenapa aku bisa berteman baik dengan temanku ini.

Aku juga gak ngerti sih.

Kalo aku sih temenannya tulus banget: kalo aku pernah bilang Friendship is A Party, nah, temenan sama Teman Baik aku ini aku bisa party melulu!

Karena tulisan ini udah sangat deskriptif menggambarkan si Teman Baik ini, gak ada gunanya lagi aku menyembunyikan nama Teman Baik aku ini.

Nama Teman Baik aku di edisi ke-10 ini adalah Saptomo, aku biasa memanggilnya 'tom' atau 'tomo'.

(Aku masih gak ngerti sampai sekarang kenapa ada orang tua yang sangat gak kreatif dan hanya mampu memberikan satu bagian nama. Hanya Saptomo. titik. tanpa embel-embel. mungkin nama anakku nanti bakalan tiga baris panjangnya, saking kreatifnya aku. LOL)

Aku bisa menulis banyak sekali hal tentang Tomo.

Mungkin aku bisa bikin lima lagi tulisan dalam edisi Teman Baik ini, cuma tentang Tomo. *lebay*

Tomo udah jadi teman yang baik banget untuk aku.

Aku senang sekali berteman dengan Tomo dengan segala kelebihan dan kekurangannya.

Sayangnya sekarang kami berdua udah jarang ketemu karena kewajiban masing-masing.

Sayangnya juga, aku dan tomo gak biasa ber-corny-corny atau ber-cheesy-cheesy ria.

The corniest and cheesiest that we got was when he wrote his thanks and dedication on facebook notes (cuma bisa dibaca sama temen-temennya Tomo aja kayaknya)

Intinya sih: aku berharap kalo aku dan Tomo bakalan berteman sampai selama-lamanya.

P.S. biar sekalian aja: Tomo ini lagi nyari pacar!

Kriteria cewek buat Tomo gampang kok: cuma cantik, baik, dan pinter. [hahaha]

kalau ada yang berminat, silakan hubungi aku aja, nanti aku hubungkan langsung ke Tomo. *wink wink*

Kelebihan Tomo yang belum tentu dimiliki oleh cowok-cowok lain: Tomo berbakat jadi Pendamping Wisuda yang oke! Jadi, buat yang mau wisuda April dan belom punya PW, boleh silakan hubungi aku atau Tomo langsung.

Monday, December 13, 2010

King of Anything

I 'found' this song in a funny way.

I was watching a showbiz news, I think it was on VOA, and there was a report about Sara Bareilles's concert somewhere in USA.

I never heard of this song before the news, but I was so interested on the concert review, I watched it 'till the end.

Out of my curiosity, after watching the review, I downloaded the song.

and guess what? I freaking like it!!!

and I was not the biggest fan of Sara Bareilles, but this song got me hooked!

It kept on repeating in my mind and I repeat it over and over again.


So, please, take a second and look for this song, if you haven't.

If you have listened to the song, take a glimpse to the lyrics.

Mind you, it can boost your confidence!

Go Sara Bareilles! Go!

King of Anything - Sara Bareilles

Keep drinking coffee

Stare me down across the table

While I look outside

So many things I'd say if only I were able

But I just keep quiet and count the cars that pass by

You've got opinions, man

We're all entitled to 'em

But I never asked

So let me thank you for your time

And try not to waste any more of mine

And get out of here fast

I hate to break it to you, babe

But I'm not drowning

There's no one here to save


Who cares if you disagree?

You are not me

Who made you king of anything?

So you dare tell me who to be

Who died and made you king of anything?

You sound so innocent

All full of good intent

Swear you know best

But you expect me to jump up on board with you

And ride off into your delusional sunset

I'm not the one who's lost

With no direction, oh

But you'll never see

You're so busy making masks

With my name on them in all caps

You've got the talking down, just not the listening


All my life, I've tried to make everybody happy

While I just hurt and hide waiting for someone to tell me

It's my turn to decide


Let me hold your crown, babe

Daughters and Mothers

Daughters hate their mothers.

It's the law of nature.

Camille Braverman - Parenthood